When I hear from someone who is going through a romantic breakup, my heart truly breaks for them. Someone they loved is no longer theirs to love and the sadness in their words tells of, not only heartbreak, but a loss of self as well. And this is the very reason why I’ve come up with this article on how to cope up with Relationship break up and ultimately Move on. HERE ARE FIVE (5) STEPS THAT YOU CAN DO IN CASE YOU ARE INTO THIS KIND OF AWKWARD SITUATION:
1. FIRST THINGS FIRST. Whatever you do, don't let thoughts of making this person jealous, or thoughts of bitterness enter into your mind. You're much better than that! Just keep saying, "I'm moving on." Pretty soon, you will have done just that. Never underestimate the power of Words. Here’s a little experiment to prove my point..… Try telling yourself that you will not succeed and most likely it will happen….Haven’t you noticed that? Be careful with your WORDS because it is so powerful that it creates YOUR REALITY in the future.
2. HAVE THE PROPER MINDSET.. ACCEPT THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS ALL OVER. Learn the lessons behind it instead. And to wrap things up between you and your ex bf/gf, forgive her/him for what happened. More importantly, you should forgive yourself. This is the way to go. You should FORGIVE for selfish reasons. Removing the “excess baggage” in your heart is literally good for the heart. You also need to unload in order to welcome your NEW LIFE with a more positive aura. Otherwise, you’ll always look clumsy and miserable. In which case, you’ll have difficulty in moving on and get back to your old jolly lovable self. Here’s something that you might want to know: If you project an image of “Abundance (for love), everybody will want to take part of it and who knows… that includes your ex. However if you project an image of “Scarcity (for Love), everyone will stay away from you. WHY? Bcoz THAT’S THE LAW OF ATTRACTION. It’s a natural law and it contains universal truths similar to the LAW OF GRAVITY.. You defy it and you destroy “the order of the universe”.. or to be specific, you destroy your chance of moving on.. ultimately you destroy yourself..
3. GET RID OF ALL THOSE SENTIMENTAL ITEMS. And this means deleting his number from your cell phone, throwing out the pictures of you two together, blocking him from your social networking site accounts. Don’t torture yourself with constant reminders. Keeping those will only serve to put you in state of prolonged nostalgia. And it’s not going to help you attain your objective.
4. KEEP YOURSELF BUSY. Sometimes when we are in a relationship, we tend to forget the other important things in life because we are very much focused with our partner. Now that he/she is out of your life, you might want to allow your friends and your family to come into your new life. You can use it also as an outlet or sort of therapy in coping with the sadness that you’re experiencing.. However, I advise you not to overload your friends with your break up story lest they will stay away from you if you overdo it. (remember Step # 2 ). Instead, let them share their stories and listen to them.. you’ll be amazed how much you have missed while you were away.
5. ACT AS IF YOU’VE ALREADY MOVED ON. There's a great saying, "If you want a certain trait, act as though you all ready have it." I can't overstate how much truth lies in these words. Act as though you've moved on, and before you know it - you will have moved on. When you see this person in public, don't look at them waiting for them to see you or speak - just go about your business, smile and live your life. Isn’t that cool? Life's too short and precious not to be lived with a smile on your face.
This also means that you need to go out with your friends more often, go dating but take it easy… don’t jump into a new relationship too soon.. You are now more wiser than that.. Just enjoy being FREE and single.
Above all, remember, love will come around again. That’s a promise..But if you keep looking BACK , chances are YOU’LL MISS IT! Look forward… always wear your best smile, and concentrate on getting the most from life. This sort of mentality and lifestyle will attract the sort of person you need in your life. The sort of person who'll make you smile so much and will erase all your hurts.. He or she is out there waiting for you, maybe even going through what you're going through right now. The sooner you move on, the sooner you'll find real, lasting love. You deserve it!
